Thursday, 30 April 2009

A recipe for getting the best out of life

Well, as this is the very first tip from us, it probably should be the single most important one - if you read no more here, this is the one to take with you and follow.

Most important tip for life-success

Follow the wisdom in Desiderata. Ok, it was written last century (1927), so you need some interpretation to the modern day, but it survives as-is quite well.

So without further ado, here it is:
Go placidly amid the noise and the haste,
and remember what peace there may be in silence.

As far as possible, without surrender,
be on good terms with all persons.
Speak your truth quietly and clearly;
and listen to others,
even to the dull and the ignorant,
they too have their story.
Avoid loud and aggressive persons;
they are vexatious to the spirit.

If you compare yourself with others,
you may become vain or bitter,
for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself.
Enjoy your achievements as well as your plans.
Keep interested in your own career, however humble;
it is a real possession in the changing fortunes of time

Exercise caution in your business affairs,
for the world is full of trickery.
But let this not blind you to what virtue there is;
many persons strive for high ideals,
and everywhere life is full of heroism.

Be yourself. Especially do not feign affection.
Neither be cynical about love,
for in the face of all aridity and disenchantment,
it is as perennial as the grass.

Take kindly the counsel of the years,
gracefully surrendering the things of youth.
Nurture strength of spirit to shield you in sudden misfortune.
But do not distress yourself with dark imaginings.
Many fears are born of fatigue and loneliness.

Beyond a wholesome discipline,
be gentle with yourself.
You are a child of the universe
no less than the trees and the stars;
you have a right to be here.
And whether or not it is clear to you,
no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should.

Therefore be at peace with God,
whatever you conceive Him to be.
And whatever your labors and aspirations,
in the noisy confusion of life,
keep peace in your soul.

With all its sham, drudgery, and broken dreams,
it is still a beautiful world.
Be cheerful. Strive to be happy
Here's a great bedroom wall poster, combining those wonderful words with an image, "I Have Time", that complement each other beautifully.

Here's the wikipedia entry about Desiderata and its author, Max Ehrmann.

Comments are welcome :)


Joanne Licsko said...

Thanks for posting this. I remember the adulterated version from the sixties and never really read the original with care. It is beautiful and as useful today as when it was first published. Wikipedia has more information on it's author and history worth reading.

Highton-Ridley said...

Thanks for saying so Joanne. I kinda live my life that way -- with my own variations and lapses ;)

Blissseeker said...

I suffer from Borderline Personality Disorder and the mentioned way of life does not come naturally to me. I have been attending a group where they teach Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (created my Marsha Linehan). I am surprised to see how closley this relates to the teachings in DBT. If only they would promote this way of thinking in school. Do you think it would help?

Thanks for sharing :)

Highton-Ridley said...

Hi Blisseeker - sorry to hear about your condition but am glad you're taking good and positive steps.

As for teaching it in schools, wouldn't it be so much better if parents taught it and it were reinforced in schools?